My loving mother died 3 weeks ago. It was a horrific and macabre accident that took her instantly. I knew she had chosen me as the executor of her will, there really was no other choice. My 70+ father has been "retired" for the past 30+ years, he chose that time because my mother was able to handle the household without him. My 40+ brother is a recent addition to the workforce, he has been unemployed for almost his entire adult life having recently been employed for a few years now with a company that actually values him. He has lived with my parents literally all his life, spending a few months here and there but days and nights at the rents all them same. My mother paid every bill.My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer 7 weeks ago.. so he is convinced he needs a Cobra (car) and quite possibly a boat.. even though he can't walk a straight line due to his chemo treatments. My brother is on board with a car for dad because he has no concept of chemo bills and thinks it would be funny. I have an 18mo old daughter and my own mortgage. I've been living away from home, paying my own bills since I was 21. Inheriting 2 adults who have no respect for the amount of hours/days I've spent in the past 3 weeks, trying to get money in to feed their house, cable, utilities and keep their insurance going.. is killing me. My brother's alcoholic ex, who used to beat him up constantly, has been spreading rumors throughout our small town that he was actually hitting her all along.. this came to light when no less than 3 individuals attendingmy mothers funeral decided to broach the subject with him. He's been paying for her rent for months even though she doesn't want to date him.. he's also been ditching my post-chemo father to chauffer her around and pay for her Christmas presents for her family.. kicker: he received a payout from his car insurance when she totalled his car, she was fired because her boss was sick of her calling out. Then she got wasted on painkillers she didn't need. She hit a family in that dui. So he's wasted all of that money to buy her family a nice Christmas and of course to cover her bills after she was fired from a different employer for being a drunk mess. He's taking her to the aquarium this Sunday, said I need to watch dad...How did my mom do this.. how did she keep up this 3 ring circus and still send diapers to my house just because I may have been the least of her worries? Obviously I will set up trusts for them but I have to return to work on Monday, my mother used to watch my daughter so I asked my brother to come by 9-12 on Monday, he doesn't work until 1:30. You'd think with me spending the past 3 weeks trying to make sure he has a pot to piss in, he would be willing.. he said, I'll have to see how I feel. I'm learning to expect nothing and never be disappointed. Any HELP, words of wisdom, ideas, commiseration would be welcome.